Saturday, December 19, 2015
Somewhere in my memory Christmas joys all around me Living in my memory All of the music, all of the magic All of the family, home here with me
Monday, November 30, 2015
Sunday, November 15, 2015
Bozo the Clown
Monday, September 21, 2015
Letting Go
Friday, September 18, 2015
Facebook and other important topics
Wednesday, September 2, 2015
Pieces of you
Sunday, August 23, 2015
Signs
Wednesday, August 19, 2015
Wherever I am, you'll always be more than just a memory.
Monday, August 10, 2015
Please protect the a**hole
Sunday, August 2, 2015
Carrying on your legacies
Tuesday, June 9, 2015
May 29th, 2015
Sunday, June 7, 2015
Goodbye, Daddy-O
Less than two years ago, I stood up in front of many of you and tried my best to sum up the most important lessons my mom taught me.
Today, I'm here to talk about Phil.
Better known as my dad, Phil was one of the most straight forward, hilarious, brutally honest people I've ever known. He never held back his opinion, and it usually involved the F-word a minimum of 3 times. Multiply that by 10 if he'd been drinking.
He probably obtained his funny bone from a combination of growing up in a colorful family (2 derelict brothers, an outspoken little sister, and a Polish mother) and the situations he found himself in during his college years as a Fiji.
A sense of humor is one of my favorite things my dad taught me. Though my wit will never be as quick as his, my stories will have just as many F-words.
My dad taught me to use my head for something other than a hatrack. For years, he reserved the nickname "hatrack woman" for my blonde moments.
My dad taught me that popping two ibuprofen before drinking heavily will almost always prevent a hangover.
My dad taught me that playing on his opposing trivial pursuit team was a guaranteed loss.
My dad taught me to never throw anything away. While cleaning his house, I found 13 hairdryers. Which will perfectly compliment the 3 I have at home.
My dad taught me that you can never have too many fans running at once. And even then, it's always good to have a bandana to soak up any excess perspiration.
My dad taught me that the only acceptable thing to quit was smoking, even if it takes 40 plus years to accomplish.
My dad taught me that friendships and maintaining them is one of the most important things in the world. He taught me that it's not easy, and you have to put a lot of work into them, but it's always worth it...even if it may not have seemed like it the morning of, what the Fiji family refers to as the "Jonestown massacre."
My dad taught me what love is through seemingly small things, like Christmas eve pajamas, bringing home fresh donuts every Sunday morning, and picking me up from the bar at 2am. And he taught me what love is through big things...like sitting by my bed every night when I was a kid and listing all the people who loved me as I faded off to sleep, moving me a thousand miles away to Florida, and taking care of my mom through her battle with cancer.
My dad taught me that you actually lose money if you have a 20% off coupon at Kohls and don't use it.
My dad taught me patience. Whether it was answering the same question 30 times from my mom, or waiting for Aunt Linda to find a 15c coupon at the bottom of her purse, he always showed patience. Except when Neal conveniently forgot his wallet and shoes every time he came home, or when someone would insist that "slippy" was a word in the English language.
My dad taught me that just because a marriage may be broken doesn't mean the family bonds it created have to be.
My dad taught me that it's still okay to rock a mini-van, even when your children are fully grown.
My dad taught me that alka seltzer is the cure to all ailments.
My dad taught me the importance of vehicle maintenance. Apparently, it's less than acceptable to go 20,000 miles without a single oil change.
My dad taught me that family goes beyond bloodlines. Family is about the people who stick by you through hell and high water. The people who invite you back on vacation year after year, even after your son climbs on the roof of your beach house and nearly gives everyone there a heart attack.
My dad taught me that pajama pants are not acceptable attire to wear in public.
My dad taught me that happiness for the people he loved mattered to him more than anything else. For Neal and for me, he didn't care what career path we chose, to where we traveled, or with whom we fell in love...as long as we were happy.
I never have to wonder if my dad was proud of me or if he loved me, because he showed me every single day. He lives on in Neal, through his quick wit, stubbornness and stunning good looks (in addition to the fact that Neal's wardrobe is made up entirely of my dad's old clothes.) And he lives on in me, through my sheer awesomeness and my ability to keep literally everything I have ever purchased, in case I might need it in the future.
Thank you to the many people in this room who contributed to the man and the father that he was for us. Because he was the best.
Tuesday, June 2, 2015
Reunited
Philip Carlin Obituary